Marriage Counseling...#8

"Conflict resolution" has to be the easiest phrase to say and the hardest thing to do. However, as we go through marriage counseling I see that conflict resolution might be the number one reason for divorce and not finances. Money can cause problems but if you don't know how to discuss the issues, then money wasn't the problem, it was the lack of communication about money. I'll be honest, I say that I'm easy to deal with in this department but truthfully I'm suffering from growing pains on this topic. I remember when there was a time I had no problem telling someone to shut the hell up and keep it moving. However, dealing with my fiance' I can not do or say those things anymore. Nothing really gets resolved from that type of behavior other than a bridge being burned behind you. I love her and respect her too much to talk to her in a negative tone. At times I feel like I've lost part of myself by scaling back on my aggressiveness but in actuality it's all about refining my energy in a more productive manner. Focused energy, I like that phrase. Either way, finding the happy medium is key. I'm working on it for the both of us.