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My babe took and Uncle Jr. day today. I knew it was coming sooner or later. LOL!

amberandeverett.com

We've hit the world wide web as an engaged couple. We haven't gotten it set up yet but I will start working on it as soon as possible. But hopefully years from now it will still be available at www.amberandeverett.com, and our children and their children will be able to look back at a time when love was approaching full bloom.

It feels good.

It feels good when someone tells you they love you just because. It doesn't have to be a special occasion or out of routine. It's those simple unexpected moments when someone tells you they love you and seems to change your whole day around. About two o'clock today I was in the fast lane of a crappy day and I got a text message out of the blue from Amber that said "Hey babe, I just wanted to tell you that I love you and I hope you are having a good day." Well, I wasn't at the time but I was after that text. It feels great to love someone but even better when someone loves you back. I wish we had more moments like this but I treasure each moment like this one. It feels good.

Marriage Counseling...#8

"Conflict resolution" has to be the easiest phrase to say and the hardest thing to do. However, as we go through marriage counseling I see that conflict resolution might be the number one reason for divorce and not finances. Money can cause problems but if you don't know how to discuss the issues, then money wasn't the problem, it was the lack of communication about money. I'll be honest, I say that I'm easy to deal with in this department but truthfully I'm suffering from growing pains on this topic. I remember when there was a time I had no problem telling someone to shut the hell up and keep it moving. However, dealing with my fiance' I can not do or say those things anymore. Nothing really gets resolved from that type of behavior other than a bridge being burned behind you. I love her and respect her too much to talk to her in a negative tone. At times I feel like I've lost part of myself by scaling back on my aggressiveness but in actuality it's all about refining my energy in a more productive manner. Focused energy, I like that phrase. Either way, finding the happy medium is key. I'm working on it for the both of us.

No longer a baby

I love my cousin Geothany. In certain aspects she has been my big and little sister all at the same time. However, I realized today my baby G is no longer my baby G. She is now engaged to Bernard and I have to let her go and grow up. I remember when she and I were just run of the mill cousins but some harsh situations in our later teenage years brought us together to be great friends and have a deeper relationship. At times I wanted her to be happier than me but we have all got stuck on making decisions that don't make a lot of sense. I remember she wasn't too happy when I started dating Audra again and I wasn't too happy when she started hanging around her ex the street pharmacist again. But we grew older and wiser and found remarkable people who have changed our lives forever. I pray that she keeps focused on what is truly important and becomes the woman that she wants to be in life. But with all that said we can't hold each others hand anymore and walk through the trials of bad relationships anymore. Just as I have to let her grow up, I have to grow up too. She will aways be my baby cousin but I'm proud of her growing into a woman.

My eyes are burning

You know you're in love when you take your woman to work at three in the morning so she can be there by four and then you drive an hour back home so you can be at work by eight. My eyes burn from being so sleepy. But I wouldn't do this for anyone else. I really don't want her driving up and down the road that time of night or morning depending on your perspective. So I do what I gotta do. Oh well. Let me lock this office door so no one can see me take a nap.

For real. There is no punch line there, I'm about to take a nap.

Nothing goes as planned...

Nothing really goes the way we plan in life. Despite all your effort it just doesn't come out the way you in visioned. This time it was a beautiful. A series of unplanned happenings, changed minds, times, and plans turned out to be one of the best marriage proposals in the history of marriage proposals. It's funny how the whole time my stomach was spinning and my mind was stressed out to the point I actually yelled and the whole time I was buggin' out, God was in the midst. Long story short, I didn't get the box from Louis Vutton, my mom and Cousin Michelle got lost coming from Orlando, the one Delta I invited told the rest of her sisters and they all showed, Amber's mom and Aunt tried to get me to go first, and I wound of proposing in GOLDEN CORAL. Yes, Golden Coral. It was crazy. The worst kept secret still got kept.

I did get a box from Macy's, and for that box I got a silver heart shaped box from Things Remembered and on top was "Proverbs 18:22" which in The Bible reads "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD."

I wasn't nervous about my decision because my feelings were validated by the Word of God. Now the words from my mouth, I was very nervous about until I sat down with that box that Amber thought contained a purse. Anyway, I got the people sitting behind us to back up and when I sat down the Holy Spirit moved on me and my mouth and the words came out smoother than Billy D. Williams cocoa butter. Everyone was in there crying but me, Mr. Alexander, and Dave. Even the young ladies at the next table who were not with our party were sobbing tears of joy. Just don't ask me to tell you what I said because I couldn't repeat it to save my life. I wasn't speaking, The Holy Spirit ran through my mouth from my heart. If it was all on me, I would have been shaking like a stripper in church. Either way, it was beautiful. Especially when she said YES. Well, actually she almost fainted then got so excited she started hyperventilating and tried to say yes all at the same time. Now that I think about that moment, it's kind of funny. She was bright red in the face and had a tight warm embrace around my neck as she kept saying yes. Either way, it went better than I could have imagined and we started the next chapter of our lives and our relationship in Golden Coral.

The things I've done

...I've often thought about the crazy things there is to do in life and whether good or bad I've done quite a few of them. Well, in two days I'm gonna do something that seems crazy to a lot of people...I'm going ask my girlfriend to marry me.

Let that one sit in for a minute.

Now for those of you that have known me for a while just take a second and think of the most outrageous stuff you've seen me do. I got at least 3 occasions that would make you wonder how I lived this long. But to be perfectly honest with you, I'm having the exhilarating rush I've heard about right before you jump of a plane. However, I'm not afraid. Now that doesn't mean I'm jumping out of a plane anytime soon or ever. But I've definitely got the willingness, the reason, the inspiration, the love, and the right woman to jump into this moment.

Anyway, I'm leaving tomorrow headed for Orlando. My mother is coming with me so that's why I have to keep it a secret. I told Amber when I do ask her to marry me I want at least my mom to be there since I want to do it in front of family. So if she knows my mom is coming then she will think something is up. Also, I am going to Louis Vuitton at the Mall of Millennium to pick up a purse box because I have her believing I got a a Louis Vuitton purse. By the way, please believe I would NEVER by a $1400 purse for a woman that is not my wife. But I know she won't complain about this engagement ring that is going to be in the box.

Now here is my problem. I'm not nervous about asking, but...I have no clue what I'm going to say. I'm not trying to force a special moment but I would like for it to be memorable. Something that we can tell our kids one day. However, today I have no clue. I'm gonna pray about it and leave it in God's hands.

So with that being said, I really need to get my things together and get ready to go. I got ten bucks that says we don't leave on time.